Speed dating tips and advice

11 Apr

Kinda like that whole Alpha male thing, you know they got ‘IT’, but can’t put your finger on exactly what ‘IT’ is.

Don’t stare at her breasts (I know she has lovely breasts! As I look around the speed dating room, other men are doing things which don’t look good ….. The interesting thing about these secrets is, others felt the difference in me, but could not easily say why.

“I’m not exactly Brad Pit“; “I’m too busy to have a girlfriend”; “I don’t get to meet many women”; “I’m too shy to ask for a date”; or “I don’t have that gift of chatting-up women”. An old Sales Manager said to me years ago, “if they come in the door, they already want it, so make sure they don’t leave ’til they get it”. Warning: This is not a ’get sex quick’ scheme, for that, I suggest you go elsewhere. Before we get into that, a quick check that you have the basics - these are not secrets! Have a shower (a proper one, with soap and everything).

Over the years, I’ve found many excuses why it’s not happening. “”First, let’s take care of my excuses: the women you get to talk with, at the speed dating, are not exactly Angelina Jolie either, and they also have their own favourite excuses, why it’s not working for them. That’s why I have condensed my success into the 10 Secrets of Successful Speed Dating, below. Dress appropriately, smart, casual, CLEAN, trying to impress, but something you are comfortable with.

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I'll take you to a dive bar with amazing burgers to see how you react.

If you're flowing with it and cool, we've got a winner.

One of the biggest challenges is entering the room - the first impression - and it is massively important. OK, there is an imaginary string coming out the top of your head. You will feel your rib cage rising, stomach coming in, and spine straightening. Congratulations, you just grew 1-2 inches, and, look more commanding!

Many pre-judgements and decisions are already made in that moment. Don’t puff out your chest, or push your shoulders back to much - if it feels really uncomfortable, it probably looks that way too. Here’s the difficult part (for us men), keep breathing, ready - and add a smile. there may be a feeling of happiness and lightness when you do this.